Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Jordanian Women Who Don't Work


More and more Jordanian households are starting to depend on the working woman's income. Clearly, Jordanian women are smarter and get much better grades than men. However there remains a big chunk of Jordanian women who do not work.

I like to classify them into certain groups.

1- The Born-To-Get-Married

Those women have no skills. They finished high school but they shouldn't have. Some of them got a college or a university degree afterwards and they shouldn't have, but they really have no skills. They have tried hard sometimes to learn something but they couldn't manage to be useful and no sane work place would hire them. They are the women who studied business but know nothing about business, studied English but can't speak it ....etc. They are everywhere. These women don't work and they shouldn't. They were born to find a good husband and be a great cook and raise children. Strangely enough most of these women end up marrying a loser, their kids go to jail and their cooking is awful.


2- The Marriage-Abused
Those women were working at one point and having a good time but they married a rich husband. He kind of forced them to stay home because the vast majority of Jordanians- men and women alike- believe a woman should not work unless she and her husband needed money. The man is usually kind enough to tell her she needs to stay home as a condition for marriage. Most women agree.


3- The Work-Abused
This a silent group but I believe it's a big one. It includes women who really work their ass off day and night and do very well at their job, but they're not appreciated. They're underpaid, made fun of, talked about in the office for whatever reason, and even sexually harassed. They try working at other places but they face the same difficulty everywhere until they realize they live in a society that looks down on women. When they try to speak up, they're 45 and single and pissed and people think they're pissed just because they're single. In Jordan they become angry and depressed. In the US they become lesbians.


4- Mothers
These women worked because they loved to work, mostly, or they just needed the money, or they just wanted to go somewhere to meet a guy, or they just wanted to work so people won't call them losers, or because their parents needed the money or because normally once you finish college you have to work. Once they got married and had kids, they voluntarily decided to stay home and raise their kids. Many of them have a part a time job, or join a Jordanian woman society, one of those societies that keep Dunes club from getting bankrupt.


5- The Scum of the Earth.
This group is getting bigger. It includes women who got married, usually very recently, who decide to stay home for no obvious reason and do nothing. They have a degree, they have a supportive husband, they even have a maid, and they own a car, and they have worked before and are very healthy, but they decided to not work. I feel ashamed when I remember that I belong to the same animal kingdom that includes those wastes of skin. These women are the reason we have drought, volcanoes, hurricanes, earthquakes and other natural disaster like Jad Chouari.

16 comments:

soreal said...

you can find those categories every where, not only in jordan...

Jad Chouari on the other hand is a different issue :P

Heroine said...

hahahaaaa....
very true!!! and unbelievable how fast it the scum group is growing!!! makes me sick!!!!

am working for almost three years now and am getting married soon, and hopefully nothing should change, unless my BF turns out to be Jeckyl/Hyde guy o ana ma ba3raf :)

Ahmad Hamdan said...

The scum group is really growing not just in jordan, all of the arab world have them.

Anonymous said...

Reega,

I will be very supportive to you.

Rob

Anonymous said...

Damn those scum bags, damn them to hell.

Hareega said...

soreal... not in every country typically!

HEroine.. all men change after marriage, it's a stressful period !

Ahmed.. yes, I'm with you on that.

Anonymous.. thanks, I need a maid

CI said...

I sense some repressed hate/anger here! Easy there Hareega!

Hilarious and true post nonetheless...

I personally despise the "Born to get Married" more than the scum...Born to get married is the reason a society fails--Let me explain why I feel this way in a very non PC manner: You are dumb,with a mind numbingly slow(or non existing)learning curve and have limited to no skills. Not only are you a burden to yourself, people around you and the society as a whole but the kids that you will raise will have a high chance of turning out into a bunch of idiots/bimbos etc..

As for the marriage abused- Are they really abused if they accept the "Sit at home" marriage condition? Unless a marriage as such was forced upon a lady, I would refrain from calling that marriage abuse, because she had the chance to refuse the conditions..But that might only be my opinon which is probably based on idealistic situations.

Thanks for the funny post- Any similar one coming up that is men related?

Ali Dahmash said...

I respect women who work and who have the possibility to excel. I feel sorry for the abused, they need a helping hand. I despite those money and time wasters and who are not ambitous and are duying ot get married only

zuzikabdo said...

will we need to free woman from the ppl who judg them whatever they do ... like you for ex...
every one have his choice .. dont think u aunravelled the perfect perspective on how human should live ther life ...

Rana Al Sha'bani said...

if you want to say in a way or another that women should work, then i disagree with you. Men should work, while women are free to work or not. I don't say that because i love seeing women pointless, no, but a woman is at her best when she gives her attention to really raise her children, take care of her family, keep on learning to help her family, contribute in social work. Remember, Men are not like women, an american author says Men from Mars, women from Venice, and we Muslims say: Adam created of clay, and Eve created from Adam's rib.

Hareega said...

Zuzikabdo... Sorry but as a citizen I have the right to judge people who waste our resources doing nothing. For example those dumb asses who go to college occupying seats of other students just to sit home and do nothing after they graduate. They can work, they have all the time in the world to work, but they are too lazy to even think of working. Those are cancers in any society and I am always glad to judge them, whether they're women or men.

Hareega said...

Rana... I don't what ribs have to do with women nowadays, but I think if a woman doesn't have kids she should work. We really can't afford having people sit home and do nothing. If she has lots of kids she has an excuse to stay home and raise them, I understand that, but quite often that's not the case.

zuzikabdo said...

knowledge is every ones right, work is every ones option....

woman who learn and goes to colleges then set at home didnt learn for nothin it will have a big effect on rasing children as ther mother is educated...

Ameer Sbaihat said...

Hareega
after too much time we spend it thatway, we have some body say's this wrong, thanx God.
I like taht post and I going to present it in my class today witch is Women and Society where I'm a student at.
you always can find them every where, and the worst the know what there wronge, and also they takes the weel to leed us to become a scum society.

Anonymous said...

If a women wants to work let her , if not leave it alone. This is all around the world not just jordan. My opinion if a man has a good well off job & wife decides to stay home let her if she decide to do something on the side cause she feels bord after caring for the house let her, also if all her stuff and duties are finsihed at home i dont see the problem why she cant go out and do something. But i dont find it wrong or shamful if she stays home, if there is no children at home of course. 1-2 or 10 children is still big job for a mother statistics show that a mother caring for one child is equivilent to 2 full time job that a man does. And if she is educated all the better too cause the education does come from the mother at home not just schools, and im not an arab but i am canadian and i have travelled and know much from each culture & religion, if you ask me the middle eastern countries the " arab world" is better than being oppressed in western society from men slash housewife.
Again this is my opinion not facts ok for all those against what i had said.

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